The thing is that his family lives in California and mine lives in Iowa and we have to visit both of them. But when we are in germany when she came we had just gotten there and we didnt know a whole lot about germany yet and we didnt have many friends yet. My husband doesnt get mad at me about about his mother but he seems to understand it more. He has a cousin who has helped us out alot and i got ther advice from her. I was just thinking about it. Its hard for me to be close to her because she talks behind my back to other family members and makes me look out to be the bad guy and makes me look stupid.