Dear Dr. Tim, I noticed after our first child 10 years ago my wife's attitude had changed. She said she fell out of love with me after the first child but had two more since. As educated and mature adults we planned our family well. So I thought. We have seen 5 psychologist about intemacy problems since the first until she filed for divorce. Florida law does not give our three children and I a choice. If the woman wants out she is entiltled to distroy four lives. I have always suspected postpartum and bipolar but she does not see a problem and that means no treatment. I don't want my children taken from me to live with her and what ever she meets down the road. She is still ill. I don't want divorce and I am willing to bet the farm our children don't want to be from a broken home. I have been searching for years for an answer trying to holds us together. Please tell me there is something I can present to court on Thursday to at least require a test for us. I never thought this would happen to me. Thank you for thoughts on this matter. Mike

I'm not Dr. Tim but I read your post and just wanted to encourage you to hang in there. I am sorry to hear what you're going through. Your wife may just be confused and doesnt know what to do at this point - I hear ppd fogs your mind/brain. I hope it all works out well for you all.

Mike, I am sorry. Really I am. I did the same thing to my ex-husband 21 years ago after the birth of our son.I knew I felt differant after his birth but back then it was called "baby blues". And you were suppose to just get over it.21 years later I live with the biggest regret of my life.And I pray everyday that he has forgiven me. He was a good man,husband,father. But unlike alot of woman I focused on nothing but my son. He was my life. I forgot about everyone eles including my ex-husband.I broke his heart and I pay for it everyday now.Good luck and hang in there and I hate that saying "I fell out of love with you" or "I love you but I am not in love with you". That's hogwash. That don't just happen.