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    • Did you decide NOT to circumcise?
  • From: ABCNewsEditorial
  •   To: All
  • 1 of 8
  • 3/17/09
Did you decide NOT to circumcise your child? Why did you feel compelled to do so? Do you regret your decision?
  • From: restored386
  •   To: ABCNewsEditorial
  • 2 of 8
  • 3/17/09
For my child It wasn't a decision, It was obvious what the right answer was. It's is not our body, it is his, and his alone to make the decision

Unfortunatly my genitals were cut up as an infant and the #### amputated, yes these are harsh words but that is what it is. I always wondered why I had the line around my #### with what looks like scars 90 degrees to that line. after I found out what circumcision was I really really wanted to believe it was for the best, but the facts and reason kept getting in the way.

why would nature/God put it there if it wasn't necessary? why is it even a question of whether the most sensitive part of a man's #### need to be cut off (sorrell's fine touch study showed that the #### is 4 times more sensitive)

well what about the so-called protection/benefits, well let's go through it
urinary tract infections - treatable by antibiotics, even intact boys have 1/3 the occurence as girls, and would you even consider cutting the genitals on your daughter for this risk

what about sexually transmitted diseases's? for every study that says there is a benefit there are at least the same number that show no benefit, keep in mind there was even one study that was set to prove how female circumcision increased the hiv infection rate, but found that circumcised women were 40% LESS likely to get AIDS.

and even if they were valid, would you rather play russian roulette with 1 bullet instead of two? that extra sensation would sure be nice to make up for using a condom which is a proven way to prevent ####'s

look at where circumcision evolved from and the religions that tend to practice it, they tend to be or have been against sex for sexual pleasure. circumcision became popular in the victorian era specifically for the harm it did, it was thought that reduced pleasure would reduce masturbation.

and to finish this off, what really sealed the deal for me was #### restoration, yes some of the function can be regained, although DO NOT think of this as true back to normal, it only returns some function but none of the nerves or special structures of the ####. but what it did give me was nothing short of excellent, sex quality went way up, not so much of a race to the finish anymore, I can enjoy it and truly feel the sensations. It's so hard to describe how much benefit having minimal friction sex (the #### acts like a rolling bearing essentially) If I could get people to experience the difference I have experienced no one would consider circumcision

I do highly resent my parents making a decision that didn't need to be made, for mutilating part of my body, I've restored it as much as I can the restored #### now covers the scars, but emotionally anything that even mentions circumcision feels me with intense sadness and rage.
  • From: d.ag30
  •   To: ABCNewsEditorial
  • 3 of 8
  • 3/17/09

My son was premature, and I didn't want to put him through even more pain by mutilating his body. If I had another boy, I would make the same decision. Let him decided, when he gets older, what to do with his own body.

  • From: GreenwichCT
  •   To: d.ag30
  • 4 of 8
  • 3/17/09
No decision necessary since it's not mine to make. My body belongs to me and my son's belongs to him. My job as a parent is to protect his rights for him. If he has a medical problem I must step in and decide what is best. Otherwise he will keep his healthy, natural #### whole. I found the news story on ABC entirely biased which is no surprise. No mention of the documented loss of sensitivity or the thousands of men who resent what was done to them and are now restoring with devices such as TLC Tugger. Many parents who have already made the decision to cut feel the need to justify what they've done and try to sell it to others. Thankfully the rates of this extremely profitable surgery continue to drop. Circumcision is no longer the norm in the Western US and it will soon be history everywhere else. All men and women should have the right to control their own bodies and choose their own religion. I support legislation to require patient consent for such elective surgeries. I cannot believe that the doctor in this story actually said that "fitting in in the locker room" is a good enough reason to recommend surgery. Outrageous. My parents circumcised me and I don't hate them for it because at the time it wasn't questioned. My mother said they didn't even discuss it. If I were born today however and my parents did something so stupid with all the information available to them it would be a different story. When I was born circumcision rates were 95%. Now they are about 55% and dropping. Even the locker room excuse is gone. If you cut your child now he may barely be in the majority among his peers on the East Coast and likely in the minority among those younger than him. It's no wonder US medicine is in crisis when insurance companies spend millions to help kids "fit in".
  • From: jkhnl
  •   To: ABCNewsEditorial
  • 5 of 8
  • 3/18/09
A no-brainer, because:
1) It is not my decision, since it's his body - if he wants, he can choose. He's now 19 and has let us know repeated how glad he is that we didn't have him circumcised.
2) Don't believe that it doesn't hurt! When visiting a pediatrician friend's office, I waited while he performed a circumcision. He DID NOT wait an hour for any numbing agent, and the child DID scream. As the procedure ended - it was obvious, how his cries changed tone - the screams turned to unconsoleable wailing, as he probably went into near shock.
3) If it's so beneficial, why don't we circumcise our dogs, horses, etc? They have #### too?
4) To mutilate a girl's genitals through circumcision is a crime in this and most other countries - why is it permissible to do this to a boy?
5) Read up and learn about the benefits of the #### - from protective covering to aiding in lubrication during intercourse, to providing much greater sexual pleasure for both the man and his partner. Why should I want to deny this to anyone, particularly my son, whom I love?
If more American doctors were themselves intact, the incidence of circumcision in the US would quickly drop to levels found elsewhere in the developed and developing world. Let's get with it America!
  • From: Jiva Soul
  •   To: ABCNewsEditorial
  • 6 of 8
  • 3/18/09
My son was born at home, under water in a special bath tub built for that purpose 20 years ago. We decided not to cut him, as he didn't come out that way.
  • From: theshaffers
  •   To: ABCNewsEditorial
  • 7 of 8
  • 3/21/09

My husband & I chose not to circumcise our son. Why? Because we did not, and do not, believe we have the right to make such an alteration to his body. That is something for him to decide for himself, if he would even want to in the first place, when he is older. We are merely the custodians of our son's body, not its owner.

Parents need to put themselves in their children's place and imagine what it would be like to be tied down against your will, and have your genitals cut at with inadequate, or no, anesthesia at all. How can people subject a newborn infant to such a painful, inhumane practice and defend it? Especially when it would be assault if it was done, without their consent, to an adult.

I think about circumcision this way... If I wouldn't want some one to mutilate and permanently damage my genitals, then why would my son want that done to him?

Just because it seems "everyone" is circumcising their sons doesn't make it the right thing to do!!! I believe that the nontherapeutic use of circumcision on male minors should be against the law. Just as it is against the law to circumcise female minors. Circumcision is NOT a parental right.

I feel a deep sorrow for any parent that has found out too late the truth about circumcision and the harm it causes, but I feel the most for the child that has no real choice but to submit to & survive through an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

10 out of 10 babies oppose circumcision. Shouldn't you?

  • From: TD1968
  •   To: theshaffers
  • 8 of 8
  • 3/21/09
I was cut as an infant, and I've had a host of complications throughout my life.  Fortunately, my parents realized what they allowed to happen was wrong, and I did get an apology from them when I was an adult.  My son was born in 1994 and we did not let a clamp or scalpel near his genitals.  It was not our decision to make, not our right to impose American society's flawed and ignorant sense of aesthetics on a non-consenting minor.  By the same token, I would also never think to let anyone alter my daughter's genitals - that is her decision to do or not when she is an adult.  Why would I not afford my son the same protection I would give my daughter?

There is no net benefit to infant circumcision.  It's a barbaric and abusive practice that has no place in a civilized society (only 15-20% of males in the entire world are circumcised).  It constitutes sexual assault, it is contrary to the American Constitution, the Bill of Rights, the UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and the Hippocratic Oath.  It's an ethical nightmare.  And it has no place in my family.
 
 
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