I am 58 and a widow of 10 years. I currently co-habitate with my "boyfriend" of 9 years (he's been living with me for 2 years). There is an 11 year age difference. Coincidentally, the same age difference as my husband's ( who is deceased) and mine. My question is, how would you advise I handle, what I consider a strong personality flaw in my boyfriend. Anger. Not threatening or physical, but sudden and abrupt. Usually he gets over it pretty quickly. I am even keeled and non-confrontational, but not afraid to stand up, or, defend myself, if necessary. He just gets agitated over small, insignificant things. I usually ignore these outbursts, but sometimes I just have to remind him to stop sweating the small stuff. 99% of the time, he apologizes, tells me I'm right and asks me not be mad at him. He's harmless, but I find his outbursts a major downer. It is a multiple occurrance, daily. He doesn't realize how this affects my feelings of intimacy toward him, or at least, won't own his share of the responsibility. Any thoughts?