Hi Robin,

Let me tell you a little about my family before I ask you my question. I have a beautiful rainbow of colors  in my family (children and grandchildren). I am Native American, my deceased exhusband was white and blues eyed with lot of  redheads in his family. I have 4 children ,which 2 of them show their Native American , 1 with red hair and fair skin, 1 with blonde hair and med skin. I have been asked if they all have the same father, I get funny looks when I say yes.  Anyways I now have 9 grandchildren with different ethic backgrounds of Jamacian, African American, Spanish, Native American and White. Their hair colors from Red to black and eye colors from blue to dark brown. My 6 yr grandaughter has one blue eye and one darkbrown eye. I am very proud of my family and love them very much , like a rainbow my grandchildren brighten my life.  On the other hand my exhusband passed away before he ever seen the grandchildren. I have heard comments that the inlaw's supposedly made that if he was alive he would never allowed the interracial relationships of our daughters which Im sure he wouldn't have. My inlaw's live in small town 10 miles from where we live , no blacks live in this town or never have that I know of.  My inlaws dont admitt to prejudice but it is there. They keep in close contact with their other grandchildren but not with mine. So I don't encourage my Daughter's to take them to their family gatherings or visits. So I guess my question is, am I wrong in doing so?

                                                                                 Thanks

                                                                               Friend from Okla

I am in an interracial marriage so I have 2 boys. Their Mom is black and I am white. The most impoartant thing to me is living in an integrated area. If you live in a community that is not diverse and where there is racial and ethnic tensions your children (or grandchildren) will be pressured by schoolmates, neighborhood friends and other peers to choose sides. There will constantly be problems as they will want to fit in with one sub-groups or another. Fortunately we live in an integrated area in the Dallas metroplex and my sons have never been pressured like this.