Only those in such stiveous marital situations can really understand what happens. Its a poor situation for the child. Basinger is basically holding her daughter hostage against her father. Yes Alec lost control, and his call and comments should have been directed to Basinger. A father may get twice a week calls at specific times. Divorce gets really bad even in the courts when one side wants to play this game. So if he struggles to make that call on time, and the other end is not there, its a very low level game Basinger is playing. She is kidding herself, because she is damaging her daughter psychologically and by the time the courts get any sort of control, it will be too late. Our prayers go out to Alec. We also pray for his daughter and Basinger for a better resolution and peace for all.