I haven't figured out how to reply to "ALL" yet so please bear with me and tell me how to do that so it doesn't look I'm picking on just one person, I want to pick on everyone at the same time I guess.
Now for the post, I was abused also, by my mother. She never missed a day of church, belonged to all the right organizations, I'm sure you get the picture. She was a holy terror. I loved church, it was the only time all week I felt safe from her. For 2 hours each week I could relax. I get really angry when I hear women saying it is such a small number of women that abuse their children. I have made it my business to watch as many divorces as I can. Women are much more likely to use their children as weapons as men. Men usually want to be just out of the women's life where women seem to want to punish the ex for things that happened years ago. I think they just need to get over it. If you want to use my sisters in law and sisters as a gauge we've had two broken arms 8 stitches, and 2 attempted suicides in the last 25 years. All caused by the mothers either mentally abusing their kids or hitting them with phones. Phones????? I have no idea why the phone seems to be the weapon of choice. During this time period not one of the fathers in the households ever damaged their child. For those of you that were abused, did your abuser ever try to stab their spouse, cut off your toes, run over you with their car, whip you until you had bruises from your shoulders to your knees because you father wouldn't beat someone up for them. I could write a book on what my mother did. Any of you have a dead brother that for some reason when into convulsions. I'll put my mother up against your fathers any day.
The courts need to get their head out of the sand and do something about parents that play games with their kids. Until mothers and fathers demand better investigations into treatment of children of divorce this is the mess we are going to have. Sit down and write a letter to your senators, demand this madness stop, the fathers aren't always to blame. Until you are willing to accept that fact you are just as guilty as anyone. Do what is best for the children not your particular sex.