To all:
As in all conflicts there are two sides, but sometimes one side has an advantage over the other. Whether it a more aggressive attorney, a bias judge, or in reference to this country?s current war?a stronger military controlled by a well financed and well connected special interest administration. It is important to act responsibly regardless of your position. I believe Alec Baldwin has been backed into a corner by the actions of his former wife and the legal system, of which is completely broken in most parts of this country when it comes to domestic relations and civil law. Alec?s recent actions reflect just that. Out of pure frustration he left a message that ?truly? was not directed at his daughter, but at the failures of a system that removed from his life the one thing he loves most?his daughter. One can?t imagine his hurt unless it is experienced. It is hard to be patient after enduring endless frustration. My heart goes out to him. I am living the same nightmare and miss my beautiful little girl and the opportunity to be her father. There are possibly other issues that have contributed to the current state of affairs, but none as important as custody and parenting.
To be alienated is hurtful period. Whether it the child or the parent who experiences this, it does not lead to a healthy relationship. In the Baldwin situation it is obvious both parent?s love their daughter and would probably agree that she was the one good thing to come out of that marriage. She in turn senses that love and desperately wants both parents to play an active role in her up bringing. She is undoubtedly torn beyond belief as to how to handle the situation at such young age. In such a contentious divorce the child cannot be shielded completely and will suffer somewhat, therein the tragedy of a family splitting up.
Any parent who maintains an unconditional love for their child should not be placed in the periphery. Sounds like this is what has been done to Alec. Maybe both parents need help?but maybe the mother more. For the mother to publicize such a message brings me to that conclusion. It would be nice to hear both sides completely. We should not judge a parent as "guilty" if they love. Does an act done out of frustration negate all other interaction Alec has had with his daughter. I think we as a society tend judge too quickly?and once behind the eight ball it's hard to play catch up. It's not a game?it's someone's life.
Sometimes we are dealt blows that rock us to our very core. I believe we can all learn to be more "human" from the tragedies life hands us from time to time. Or do we go on making the same mistakes? I have more faith than that and I believe Alec does as well. Some parents have to cave in out of mere financial survival. I encourage Alec to continue to be a positive influence in his daughter's life. That's what she needs and that's what Alec (even between the lines of the message) is trying to do.
My best to all,
A dad