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I agree with you about the health issues and need to find your roots. I guess my only concern is how the matter is handled. You said you did not ask to be born, but had your birth mother aborted you, you would not be here, and hopefully, you have a happy life. It's very possible that your birth mother has a family now. who don't know about you. Hopefully she allowed you to be adopted because at the time it was in YOUR best interests. She was probably told she would not see you or know where you are. I suspect it was a heartbreaking time for her. If she has married and has a family, how would you know how her family would react to you. I would hope that it would be with open arms, but that may not be the case. Back in my time, to have a baby out-of-wedlock was a shameful thing--NOT for the baby, but for the mother. Many women didn't tell their spouses when they married. I see your need to know about your birth parents, but, please, be discreet about contacting your birth mother. She owes you answers to all of your questions, and you owe her the right to privacy. I know that if I had a child I had given up for adoption, I would want to know her (I'm 60 now). I wish you well, and hope you are successful and that your search ends happily for all involved.