I didn't realize Kim was here to speak for herself!  Seems you know the ins and outs of this relationship well enough to speak for the parties involved.  The problem here is Alec went off on Ireland's voicemail when he shouldn't have.  You can't vent your anger at the custodial parent because that will all get turned around on you in court.  Hey, I have an idea.  Let these people sort out their private life, oh I don't know... privately?  Realistically, who are we to judge?