My daughter-in-law has changed since she had her first child seven years ago. She now has two children (7 and 3)and has moved out of the state. She first became very upset with her mother when she didn't do something that she thought she should do. The relationship through the years has been very strained and a year ago when her mother was visiting they had a big blow up and have not spoken since. My daughter-in-law's sister recently sent her an email to let her know that she was spending the Thanksgiving holidays with her mother and other family members and she blew up at that. I called to encourage her to call her sister and she got very upset with me...I assume because in her eyes I was siding with her sister. My question is ...What is wrong? She seems to assume what others should do or not do and becomes very disappointed if things don't go the way she would like. She can't seem to put things in prospective and just let others lead their lives and come in to her and her family's lives on a happier more positive note. She seems to hold her children over us and we are all afraid to do something wrong and not be allowed to see them.