I had been fighting for my son's custody over 7 years. It was an emotional roller coaster for me. I am sure that the father felt the same way. It had affected my son a great deal. As the results, I do believe that the father and I were selfish and we were too busy focusing on our angers whatever it happened in the past between him and me. Our son had behavior problems at school and home because of this. Today, my son is so bitter at his father for saying bad things constantly about me. He is old enough to see the differences between him and me. I wish things were different, but I cannot go back and change the way things were. I have forgiven the father the way he had treated me in the past, but I cannot forget that and I refuse to trust him ever in this lifetime. I still have the questions.. Why did it happen? Why did he mistreat me so bad? Why did he paint the untrue pictures of who I am? The questions keep raising. They will be probably never answered. I have a wonderful husband and other younger children. He is totally opposed of the father I mentioned above. I am really proud of this beautiful family and my son. He is always part of this "new" family. Kim, I promise you that this fight will go on until your daughter is old enough to stand up. She is the only one who can stop this fight. Be strong until it ends. You do not have to say anything to Alex until he proves that he respect you as a mother. Alex, it is still no excuse how you treated your daughter over the phone. You have shown a lot of your violence. (Thank to MEDIA) I suggest you to save your repution by respecting Kim as Ireland's mother. Ireland will never forget the way you mistreated her. I am sure she will forgive you timely, but there are consequences. You need to learn how to be a team player as a parent. Your anger was out of control. It is time for you to see counseling. DO NOT LOOK FOR THE REVENGE or it will go on and on. There is no honesty in all battles.