I have read a lot of comments on this subject, and while I too have said things to my daughter at times that I wish I could take back, I would NEVER be as stupid as to leave them on an answering machine. The fact of which words he chose to use, simply do show as evidence of what type of man he is. I really tried to see his side of it, I really did, but I can't get past his tone and his words. The child is only 11, she isn't even an adult or close. His past outburts of anger also don't help his cause. If that was my ex, I wouldn't want my daughter around him either. Why doesn't he just admit to having an anger issue and not blame the mother? She might not be perfect either, but what he said was just awful.